For many dog owners, asking for help can be a very difficult thing to do. It can feel like admitting defeat, and a dog with a behavior problem can bring feelings of shame, embarrassment, and inadequacy. Many owners think, “There are no bad dogs, only bad owners,” leading them to blame themselves.
Common Owner Concerns
Typically, when an owner first contacts me, the conversation may involve statements like, “I know it’s my fault,” or “I know I’ve spoiled my dog.” But what does “spoiled” mean in relation to dogs? Spoiled implies that the dog has always had its own way. How would this affect a dog, and what are dogs thinking?
Understanding Dog Behavior
One common example is a dog allowed to sleep on its owner’s bed. A dog may want to sleep on a bed because it is comfortable and offers companionship. This doesn’t mean the dog will suddenly start misbehaving, such as pulling on the lead, being aggressive, or not coming when called.
The Impact of Misguided Advice
Many owners have watched old-school TV programs where trainers belittled owners, telling them their dog didn’t respect them, and laid the blame on the owner. This discourages people from seeking help. Social media can also perpetuate this blame game.
Real-Life Example
I recently met an owner with a reactive dog who believed she was at fault because she had “babied” the dog. When I asked what she meant, she replied, “Well, I talked to him in a silly voice.” In reality, the dog was blind in one eye, causing it to react when approached from the blind side.
Importance of Health Checks
One of my rules is that any dog must have a vet check before I see them for any sudden change in behavior or reactivity issues. I also recommend seeing a canine body worker. Dogs can suffer from hidden issues like hip dysplasia, arthritis, or digestive problems that aren’t obvious to the untrained eye.
Genetic Predispositions
Behavior issues can also stem from genetic predispositions. For example, a collie with a strong instinct to chase may struggle with car chasing despite the owner’s best efforts. This isn’t the owner’s fault but rather a result of the dog’s innate drive.
Diet and Behavior
Diet can have a major impact on behavior. Many common dog foods are full of sugars and e-numbers known to cause behavior problems. Choosing the right food and walking equipment can be overwhelming for owners.
Supporting Owners
Instead of finger-pointing, we need to support and encourage owners to get help from the correct source. Placing blame can destroy relationships and discourage people from seeking help.
Responsibility of Ownership
While it may not be the owner’s fault that their dog has a behavior problem, it is their responsibility to manage the situation and seek help. Blame doesn’t solve the problem but support and professional guidance can make a significant difference.